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Subject: So, enough about the "thanks" PM, lets talk about "Your welcome"
Date Posted: 4/24/2009 11:46 PM ET
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So, I usually send out a thanks when I receive a book. Every once in a while, in return, I receive a "you're welcome" PM.

So, knowing that the "Thanks" is very controversial, I'm wondering what you guys think about the "you're welcome" PM.

I never send it, do you?


Date Posted: 4/24/2009 11:47 PM ET
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I've gotten them but it doesn't annoy me.  I don't respond to them.  I think it's a bit of overkill. 


Date Posted: 4/24/2009 11:57 PM ET
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I used to work with a guy who always said, "Thank you for thanking me" when someone said 'thank you' to him. It was funny the first time. After that...just wanted to slap him upside the head. :-D


Date Posted: 4/24/2009 11:59 PM ET
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I always send "you're welcome" PMs. I figure if someone has taken the time to thank me, they deserve the courtesy of a reply. 

I don't however, respond to the "you're welcomes" if I receive them.  Thank you, you're welcome.  That's it for me.

edited for clarification.

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Date Posted: 4/25/2009 12:25 AM ET
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I'll bite.

I always send a thank you but I never respond  to a thank you with a you're welcome.  I'm fearful of the endless thank you circle.  People around here get so worked up over people being polite that I try not to "clutter" e-mail boxes too much.  However, my Mama taught me to say thank you when a kindness is extended so people who send books to me will always get a note of gratitude.

Date Posted: 4/25/2009 12:37 AM ET
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I don't mind the "You're welcome".  Simply because if someone sent a "thank you" they don't mind two word PMs so I don't see any reason to mind someone sending one to them. :)

Subject: You're welcome
Date Posted: 4/25/2009 1:59 AM ET
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Okay, guilty as charged. :-)  I say "you're welcome;" sometimes it seems like the right thing to do. When someone takes a minute to let you know the book was in good condition, and you've taken the time the find the right size envelope and/or bubble wrap for an odd-sized book, it's nice to hear back from the requestor.

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Date Posted: 4/25/2009 2:01 AM ET
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I might send an "you're welcome" only if they make a comment---, like "thank you, the book is in super shape!" or "thanks, I have been looking forward to starting this series".  Then I'll say you're welcome, because they went to the trouble of adding something personal.  If it's just "thank you" or "thanks"---does not require a "you're welcome" in my convoluted logic.

Geri (geejay) -
Date Posted: 4/25/2009 4:00 AM ET
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I'm with Darlene.  I usually send a "you're welcome" if they've made a comment.  Yesterday was a thank you with a comment about the way the book was wrapped and that she was already reading it.  As Darlene said, the other person has taken the time to add a personal note.I can take the time to say enjoy or you're welcome.

Just a thank you or thanks is the end for me too.

Date Posted: 4/25/2009 11:10 AM ET
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I'll send a You're Welcome to a personalized thanks message, along the lines of ...


"Thanks - it's tough to find books set this country!"

"Hope you enjoy the book. You might also check out 'My mother-in-law Was a Cannibal' by Josie Roe - part of the book takes place there."




Date Posted: 4/25/2009 11:27 AM ET
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I get thank you notes about 99.9% of the time & pretty much never send a you're welcome unless they added some other correspondence about the book or author or whatever with the thank you, and we get into a discussion about it.  I always use plastic wrap though, so maybe that's why I get so many thank you notes in the first place:P

Date Posted: 4/25/2009 11:38 AM ET
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I always reply with "You're welcome. Enjoy!" if they send a thank you message. I don't respond to you're welcomes though. They don't bother me. Just like getting a thank you doesn't bother me.

Pat O. (PatinCO) - ,
Date Posted: 4/25/2009 1:41 PM ET
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When someone says "Thank You", I always say "You're welcome.  Enjoy the book." and if they've put more in their message I'll respond to that.  If they reply again with something that doesn't really need an answer, I don't respond again.  Pat

Date Posted: 4/25/2009 1:46 PM ET
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I don't.

I just don't see the point of adding to email clutter.

Date Posted: 4/25/2009 6:33 PM ET
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I have replied if the book they had requested has other books by same author in my tbr pile.  That way they know to watch my bookshelf or I can send a followup if they so desire...plus...I've met a really good fellow swapper because of it!


Date Posted: 4/25/2009 7:55 PM ET
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I agree with DBS. If someone just says "thanks" or "thank you" then I don't send any reply. If they add a message, like "This was in great condition!" or "I've been looking for this forever!" or whatever, then I often will reply.