He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
He's Just Not That Into You The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys Author:Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo, Barry David Marcus He says: Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. ... more »If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you. She says: There is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out. We're fantastic. For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men. He's afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he's intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship. Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that -- despite good intentions -- you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages. The truth may be He's just not that into you. Unfortunately guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, "You're not the one." But their actions absolutely show how they feel. He's Just Not That Into You -- based on a popular episode of Sex and the City -- educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship. Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo's wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean "I'm in love with you and want to be with you." He's Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman's night table. It knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start "figuring him out," consider the glorious thought that maybe He's just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.« less
This is a really good, really honest look at men and relationships. It tells women to stop wasting time on men that don't appreciate them. It boosts the self-esteem of anyone who reads it, and the writers speak from their own experience, not from a psychological point of view.
I really wanted to read this after seeing him on Oprah... a year later it was a let down pretty much chapter after chapter of the same thing. That was probably the point, sometimes guys aren't into you get over it and move on. There aren't 100 explanations or ways to analyze their behavior it just made for a redundant read. It is a great book to give to someone who just can't get it through their head that sometimes he's just not that into you!
Not a book for me. It felt repetitive and at times too silly to even be funny. The phrase "He's just not that into you" can become very annoying after the first few chapters. However it is a fun read with all the little letters written for advice and his funny (or supposed to be funny) responses to them. Probably something fun to read with a friend so you can laugh at the situation and possibly even the advise.
GREAT BOOK - All young women and old should read this immediately no matter what phase of a relationship they are in - another great one is "It's called a break up because it's broken." Loved this book! Keeping it as a reference! Great humor, EASY READ (I am extremely slow).