Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-By-Step Guide to Helping You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship
Too Good to Leave Too Bad to Stay A Step-By-Step Guide to Helping You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship Author:Mira Kirshenbaum To make up or break up? Whether you're just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other book tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try -- or you need to go. — Psychotherapist... more » Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of research and her work with real-life couples to help you make the right decision. She shows you how to diagnose your unique situation with self-analysis and questions like these, which get to the very heart of your problems:
What sins are forgivable and which ones unpardonable?
Is your partner questioning your opinions to the point where you doubt yourself?
What is your sex life really like, and how important is it?
Is there real love left between you, and how does it stack up against all that you find unlovable?
Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line -- what you need to be happy. This remarkable insightful and probing guide offers advice that lets you see the truth about your relationship -- and with wisdom and compassion, it helps you act with the confidence of knowing that whether you decide to go or stay, you are doing the very best thing.« less
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Audrey B. (aud1ami) reviewed Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-By-Step Guide to Helping You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship on
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Kirshenbaum does an excellent job of breaking down a difficult decision into manageable components, creating a "quiz" of sorts that helps you make objective observations. It's not slanted in favor of leaving *or* staying. The author makes unbiased observations that the reader than interpret on his or her own in favor of staying or leaving. I found it very helpful and highly recommend it to others who may be feeling ambivalence about whether to make a change in their relationship.
I am keeping this book. Until I read it , I was so confused about what to do.....and I think when my husband saw it on the table and that it had a bookmarker in it ( meaning I was reading it, and reading it quickly ) He shaped up. I reccomend this book, not because I think it will make your partner realize they better shape up, but because it helps YOU come to that realization on your own.
Karen - reviewed Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-By-Step Guide to Helping You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship on + 160 more book reviews
This is an excellent book for anyone who knows that they are unhappy in their relationship but can't quite identify what is wrong. The author helps you step through questions about the quality of your relationship and helps identify what is working and what is not working. This book contains 36 really interesting diagnostic questions that make you think about your life, such as: DIAGNOSTIC QUESTION #4: If God or some omniscient being said it was okay to leave, would you feel tremendously relieved and have a strong sense that finally you could end your relationship? or DIAGNOSTIC QUESTION #9; Does it seem to you that your partner generally and consistently blocks your attempts to bring up topics or raise questions, particularly about things you care about?
The book guides the reader so that he or she can honestly look at what is good and what is not so good about their relationship, and then decide whether there is enough 'love' or 'commitment' to keep trying.
The other book that I would strongly recommend is THE EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE MAN by Patti Henry. Patti's book identified some of the problems I was having in relating to the man in my life. This book deals with the issues from the man's and the woman's part in the drama of a relationship.