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Subject: Would you be mad if.........
Date Posted: 11/21/2007 11:33 AM ET
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when you ordered a book from someone that they included extra books that you didnt happen to order? I want to do something fun but not sure if this would make people upset or happy. I want to start posting books to my bookshelf again (probably in about a week or so when I am feeling better) but when someone orders a book from my bookshelf I want to send them a extra book or two without them even asking. I dont want to offer deals in the book bazaar. This is just something I want to do to sort of clear my books out and these would be books that I dont post to my bookshelf but are still very postable. Does that make sense? So if you ordered a book from me and I sent you an extra book or two that you didnt request would you be happy or mad?

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 11:43 AM ET
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I would be happy. IT's fun to receive extra books. If it's something you don't want you could always donate it to a friend who might like it. give it to Goodwill, a used bookstore, use it for an art project, whatever. There are tons of things you can do with books!

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 11:55 AM ET
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I think that'd be a wonderful surprise!  You may just want to include a brief note of explanation (write it on the packing slip or something) or people may get confused and think you sent it to them accidentally.

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 11:57 AM ET
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If you put a note in with the books saying the extras were a gift, I think it would be awesome!  If there was no note, personally, I'd probably be confused, but that's my typical state of mind anyway.  : )

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 12:12 PM ET
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I think that would be a wonderful thing to do!

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 12:13 PM ET
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I don't know if I'd like that. I have a move coming up, limited space and 300 unread books already.  Extra books I didn't ask for would just be more clutter.  Especially if it turned out to be something I had already or had already read.

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 12:16 PM ET
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I think it's nice - especially if some thought goes into it.  I recently got an extra book, with a sticky note on it saying that based on what I'd ordered, she thought I might like this extra book too.

ETA - I think it was Jo who sent me the extra book!

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Date Posted: 11/21/2007 12:16 PM ET
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I do it a lot.  I just try to choose a book comparable to the book that was requested.  Another mystery, cozy, romance, etc.  No one has complained yet, LOL, and everyone has seemed to be happily surprised.  :)



Date Posted: 11/21/2007 12:25 PM ET
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I wouldn't be mad but I would rather not receive books that I haven't ordered. If a book is not on my wishlist, then, most likely, I have either read it already or am not interested in reading it. My one bedroom apartment is already filled to the brim with books I want to hang on to. I don't have the space for books that aren't keepers and if no one had requested the book from the original sender then it is probably going to be a while before someone requests it from me. It's a lovely gesture but, for me, ultimately, it is just one more book that is taking up precious space. Other people may differ though. Perhaps you could send a PM letting you requestors know that you are going to include some extra books. That way if they don't want them, they can tell you upfront.
Date Posted: 11/21/2007 12:30 PM ET
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I think it would be a very sweet gesture and if the person didn't want the book (s) they could always drop it off at their library or pout it on their own trade list here at PBS...

I have both been the receiver of such a thoughful gesture as well as the giver of more than one book...I'm kind of shocked to hear that some would not be pleased by it!

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 12:39 PM ET
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I love doing this myself and would LOVE getting books that way.   I always figure if they don't want to read the book, they have another one to post and get a credit.

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 12:49 PM ET
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I'd be thrilled, even if it was something I'd not normally read.

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 12:50 PM ET
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I would be thrilled to receive extra books that didn't cost me anything!  someone on another site did that and I was happy to receive it because it was part of a series I was gathering to read

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 12:54 PM ET
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I would be thrilled!!  So many books, so little time!!

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 12:59 PM ET
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I would like it.  I had someone PM after I'd ordered to offer an extra book, you could do it that way. 

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 12:59 PM ET
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I think it's a nice thing to do.  However, I used to do it pretty regularly, because at the very least, it could be turned into a free credit!  Then, one day I got a PM from a woman who wanted to know if this was a mistake.  I said it was just a free book.  She said "we don't like this sort of stuff in our house".  Free stuff?  That's bad? :-)  No, I had sent a romance novel along and, I assume, it was the sex scenes which were objectionable.

I told her to do whatever she wanted with it and she felt the need to TELL me what she was going to do with it... it hurt my feelings and I stopped, lol.  Later I found a PBSer who sends books to the troops and I send all my "not moving fast enough" books to her now.

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 1:08 PM ET
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It'd be odd to get mad for some thing free IMHO, except in the instance Anna saw. You'd need to be careful to not send romantic based books to some households. For those who are limited in space, not interested, whatever, they can just get rid of the book the same way they got it or donate it to a UBS or library. No biggy.

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 1:10 PM ET
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I'd love to get a surprise of extra books!

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Date Posted: 11/21/2007 1:26 PM ET
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What a wonderful, thoughtful thing to do!  I'd be most surprised and definitely happy to be the recipient of a surprise extra bonus with my order!!!

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 1:32 PM ET
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I do this a lot with kids books or series books. I've never had someone complain and never gave thought that someone wouldn't be happy. Like others I figure they can pass it on here for a credit, bring it to the ubs, share it with friends or just get rid of it if they want.


Date Posted: 11/21/2007 1:43 PM ET
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I guess one person's thoughtful gesture is another person's clutter. I was surprised by how many people would like to receive unasked for books. In my case. I am an extremely picky reader. (I don't mean that my standards are higher than anyone else's because I certainly read plenty of books that some might refer to as trashy.) But I like specific authors in certain genres. And when I find an author I like, I tend to read everything they have written. So if someone sees that I like Amanda Quick, they might think to send me another book by her - except I have already read all her books . Or they might send me a Jayne Ann Krentz (who also writes the Amanda Quick novels) - except I don't like JAK books. (I know, I know, it's the same author but this is what I mean by being picky.) Books that I don't want, take up precious space that I don't have. Thoughtfullness is sometimes in the eye of the beholder. For some, getting an unasked for book is a real treat. But others might see it merely as an oppportunity for the sender to dump unwanted stock on an unsuspecting requestor. It may be a thoughtful gesture if the book is unasked for but it is not thoughtful if the book is unwanted. However, I seem to be in the minority here so it looks like your gesture would be appreciated much more often than not. I am not suggesting you don't do it, too many people would appreciate it, but I did want to give you a different point of view. Since I have never had to deal with getting an unasked for book, I don't think it is a real problem and if by some stretch of the imagination, it were to become one, I could always list it as a special request to send only the books I had requested.
Date Posted: 11/21/2007 1:52 PM ET
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You could do what I have done when I'm overwhelmed with books. I just pm anyone who orders and ask them to pick a second or even third book for free. Of course this may not help with the books you just have around that aren't on your shelf yet, but it's a thought.

I've had many people take me up on the offer of a second book free, some just say, "no thanks, I don't see anything else that interests me".

By the way I have a 3 for 1 deal on children's books right now! (*shameless plug*)  :-)

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 8:48 PM ET
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While I certainly would not be upset or annoyed in the least at someone's thoughtful gesture toward me, I don't think I would want a book I didn't order, only because my space for this "hobby" is very limited.  Of course if it happened I would respond in kind with a lovely thank you PM.  It is the thought that counts after all.

L. G. (L)
Date Posted: 11/21/2007 9:00 PM ET
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That would be awesome!  Just include a note saying the other books are freebies, so they don't get confused....

Date Posted: 11/21/2007 10:06 PM ET
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I got an extra once and it was a very nice surprise.  I read a little of it, realized it wasn't really for me, and posted it to my shelf, but that didn't diminish the fond feelings I had for the person who sent it to me.  That said, I do realize that some people are very strapped for space.