He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
He's Just Not That Into You The NoExcuses Truth to Understanding Guys Author:Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo, Barry David Marcus He says: Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. ... more »If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you. She says: There is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out. We're fantastic. For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men. He's afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he's intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship. Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that -- despite good intentions -- you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages. The truth may be He's just not that into you. Unfortunately guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, "You're not the one." But their actions absolutely show how they feel. He's Just Not That Into You -- based on a popular episode of Sex and the City -- educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship. Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo's wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean "I'm in love with you and want to be with you." He's Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman's night table. It knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start "figuring him out," consider the glorious thought that maybe He's just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.« less
This is a really good, really honest look at men and relationships. It tells women to stop wasting time on men that don't appreciate them. It boosts the self-esteem of anyone who reads it, and the writers speak from their own experience, not from a psychological point of view.
I really wanted to read this after seeing him on Oprah... a year later it was a let down pretty much chapter after chapter of the same thing. That was probably the point, sometimes guys aren't into you get over it and move on. There aren't 100 explanations or ways to analyze their behavior it just made for a redundant read. It is a great book to give to someone who just can't get it through their head that sometimes he's just not that into you!
Not a book for me. It felt repetitive and at times too silly to even be funny. The phrase "He's just not that into you" can become very annoying after the first few chapters. However it is a fun read with all the little letters written for advice and his funny (or supposed to be funny) responses to them. Probably something fun to read with a friend so you can laugh at the situation and possibly even the advise.
GREAT BOOK - All young women and old should read this immediately no matter what phase of a relationship they are in - another great one is "It's called a break up because it's broken." Loved this book! Keeping it as a reference! Great humor, EASY READ (I am extremely slow).
Fun to listen to their advice. Confidence boosting. You don't have to settle for being treated badly and yes, there are better men out there! A guy shares his view of what other guys mean by their behavior and words, usually if they aren't being nice to you it means "he's just not that into you". Kind of enlightening in a silly, funny sort of way. Entertaining and enjoyable, even if sometimes you cringe as you recognize those bad relationships you clung to for too long or that idiot ex-boyfriend you thought was so great at the time.
Having just gone through a difficult break-up myself, when I started reading this book it made me feel sick! I saw the signs that he just wasn't that into me years ago, but I made excuses for him, and wasted too many years on nothing! Thanks to this book, I think I'll recognize the signs for what they are if I ever find myself in that situation again. If you are in a similar situation, power through this book, even if it makes you queasy. It's easy reading, but insightful information.
Jennine G. (jenninestg) reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on
I really like this book better than the other books on break-ups because it really gets to the core of the issues, yet surrounds them with witty dialogue. Best of all the amazing transformation stories (of how the author was once just like you only now they're successful)are kept to a minimum. Really great read!
I have read this great little book cover to cover twice, I have dog earred pages, highlighted, and I still go back for confirmation of things.
There is humor in the writing, I am a big Greg fan! but there is also a lot of no nonsense advice. Heed warning. Great Advice!!!