So I FINALLY made it down to #1 on the list and I said Oh YES I still want it (LOL), the person accepted, but have yet to mail it. Would it be rude to PM them a gentle reminder or politely ask them when or if they've sent it yet? If that would not be out of line, any suggestions on how to word it? I do NOT want to upset the sender at all. Its just a book I've really been looking forward to reading and was so excited to finally have it become available.

I would be a bit annoyed if someone PMed me for that reason.

I know you're excited, but give them the alloted time to send the book.  The system will notify you when the book is on its way.

The reason I was asking is because its past the "will mail by" date.

The sender actually has two days past the will-mail-by date to mail the book. I still wouldn't send a PM.

Since it is past the date, I think it is ok to ask.  After all, if the person doesn't mark it mailed they will lose their credit if the system cancels the transaction.

Thanks barbara. That was my concern. I didn't want them to lose their credit, plus with the "weirdness" going on with PBS today, I wonder if something got  "stuck" because the time has past and it still hasn't gone away or put me back on the WL.

I wouldn't send a PM, but that's just my personal opinion.  

Give it a little more time. I had a WL book time out on me a few days ago, and a few days later the person PM'd me to say that she HAD mailed it but her computer had died so she hadn't been able to mark it mailed before the system could cancel it. Maybe this is the same person your book was ordered from? PM me if you want and we can compare names...although if she PM'd me I'd think she would have PM'd you as well.

I would wait and let the system do its thing. 

I take it on a case-by-case basis. I've PM'd some people and not others for various reasons. If you feel like PMing then go ahead and do so. It's YOUR credit and you ordered the book so I think a simple question wondering if it's been mailed is perfectly acceptable. I just had this same thing happen with a wishlisted book and finally after 9 days (five to accept my request and four to mark it sent) it appears to be on its way to me. I didn't PM this person because I did some checking and she seemed to be pretty active here so I let it ride. 

Some get uppity - snippity but don't worry about them - you've every right to inquire about your credit.

From the other side of that equation. I used to mail one time a week (before printable postage) If a book got ordered after my PO run it waited until the next time I went. So maybe this person cant get to the PO yet *shrug* I wouldnt pm but its really up to you.