Remember Me to My Father Author:David Nemec COMING-OF-AGE IN THE 1950s AND THE SEARCH FOR A MEANINGFUL PERSONAL AND SEXUAL IDENTITY In this extraordinary and powerfully wrenching novel, 16-year-old Ben Farkas searches for meaning and personal identity after the untimely death of his father. In trying to create a life without his father and come to terms with his grief, Ben becomes mo... more »re and more isolated and withdrawn. Author David Nemec’s portrayal of a child’s loss of a parent is profoundly moving and it lifts this book far above the category of a traditional coming-of-age novel and into the realm of the best psychological fiction. Carefully and convincingly, Nemec shows the reader how and why the father’s illness and death become the prime motivators of Ben’s perceptions and actions. These perceptions are brilliantly summed up in the novel’s dramatic ending. At the outset of his turbulent year, Ben's concerns are typical of most young people. He longs for recognition and he fears that he has fallen behind his teammates and classmates in the race to achieve athletic success, sexual prowess and, above all, an optimistic sense of himself and his future. Set against the backdrop of a small Mid-western suburban town in the mid-1950s, Remember Me To My Father takes us through what will prove to be the most difficult and turbulent time in Ben's life. In the world he tries to create without his father, Ben withdraws into baseball as "the only thing of consequence." The private ritual of his absorption in the game he calls "Project Bible" becomes the only thing that allows him to escape from the deepening sense of alienation he experiences in his personal life. For Ben Farkas, the twelve months between the Cleveland Brown's devastating last-minute defeat in the 1953 NFL title game and the final day of 1954 are a period of anguish, confusion, punishment, despair, and finally triumph. Because he is shy and awkward with women, Ben hopes success in baseball will attract the ideal woman to him—a woman like his beautiful, older neighbor Lisa Sterling who is married to a man he has grown to believe epitomizes everything he is not. Then, on the eve of the beginning of his senior year of high school, when Ben is acutely aware that he is slipping into a bottomless darkness, he steals into Lisa’s bedroom after she turns out the light and prepares for bed. Remember Me To My Father culminates when the discoveries Ben makes that night with Lisa allow him to emerge from his personal darkness and forge a hard-won peace with himself as he finally experiences the deep connection with another human being that he has been searching for. Remember Me To My Father is wonderfully honest in its evocation of the pain and conflicting passions that besiege adolescents of both sexes and superb in its evocation of the capricious social and moral climate of the 1950s. Exceptional writing, a deep sense of compassion for its protagonist, and a rare depth of insight combine to make it both a masterful historical portrait of teenage life a half century ago and a classical novel in the tradition of Fitzgerald, Lewis and Hemingway.« less