I don't want to name the specific book (in case that's bad form...) but a book I'm #1 on the wishlist for has been cancelled twice after waiting for approval for a while, and the book is right now AGAIN taking a long time to approve so I'm nervous. I didn't take note of who had the last 2 copies to see if it was the same person, but I did take note this time. Since the book has a wishlist, they would know that a request would immediately go out to a member right after they list it. Still they ignore it for a while, then cancel! Why would you list a book you're not ready to part with? This book in particular is one I've been dying to read, so this constant 'carrot in front of a treadmill' rountine is painful :( Is this just something I have to put up with? Has anyone else had this happen? I kind of wish I knew if this was one sadistic person (and I use that word in a humorous way) or just a book people change their minds about a lot...

I'd send them a PM asking what happened.  There could be any number of explanations, so I wouldn't assume anything.  Just say "I notice that last time I was offered this book it was from you then cancelled, and now it's offered from you again.  Are you having problems with the site?  Is there some problem I can help you with?"  That sort of thing.  See what they say.

If you don't hear back from them, and/or if it happens again, you can let R&R know about it.  But first see what they have to say.  There could be a perfectly reasonable explanation.

Carol, you can see who these cancelling senders were in your Transaction Archive.  Just sort by "Requested by me, Cancelled, Title" and look at the different transactions there for this title.  I once thought the same person was cancelling and it wasn't the same person at all!  I checked my transaction archive before PMing, and I'm glad I did.

Of course, if it is the same person, there could be a good explanation, as was mentioned above.

That happened to me once, only it was three different people that cancelled before I actually got the book.  I think it was cursed!

Liese- Thanks for the info! I checked, and the last 2 were by the same person but the current one is a different member. I'm hoping they're just busy and won't cancel the book *fingers crossed!*

Thanks for the input everyone! I understand lots of things come up, and I'm not usually so uptight- it's just when it's a book I'm been drooling at the thought of and having my hopes dashes multiple times set my alarm off. I'm not planning on contacting anyone (unless that first two canceled person comes up again... though it'll be a very polite message, trust me) I just wish I had better luck with it. :\ Whenever I finish a book I loved, I always hold it for a few days to see if I want to list it or keep it. When you instantly list a book that you may want to keep then change your mind later instead, it's a bigger pain on both ends. Thanks for the great replies, and anyone else reading this please add on :) Also, if you've changed you mind and did a cancellation- what was the reason (other than for the book being lost/damaged)? Absolutely no attacking at all, I'm just curious!