Tracy B. (tracy32) reviewed The Strong-Willed Child: Birth Through Adolescence on
Helpful Score: 2
Dr. Dobson describes this unique individual this way. Just as surely as some children are naturally compliant, there are others who seem to be looking for a fight upon exit from the womb. Such a child comes into the world smoking a cigar and barking orders in the delivery room...
this little powerhouse needs a special kind of understanding and disipline from his parents. the strong willed child is a practical how to book on discipline and child rearing, which focuses on sibling rivalry,hyperactivity,self esteem, and the most common errors made by frustrated parents.
I got this book when my son was almost 4 yrs old, so it's been 9 yrs since I read it. However, I found it VERY helpful. It helped answer a LOT of questions. The last half of this book is in a question/answer forum which I found very helpful.
This is a GREAT book for parents of kids who like to challenge their authority. Don't let yourself get frustrated and angry, but use this book to help you take action. Maybe you just take pieces of what the author has to offer, it made a big difference for us and how we handled situations.
Jenny S. (jjs1971) reviewed The Strong-Willed Child: Birth Through Adolescence on
Helpful Score: 2
This is such a wonderful book! You must be ready to enforce some pretty strict rules and STICK with them! Its tough...VERY tough for the first few days, but you will be so thankful that you read this book and followed Dr. Dobson's advice. I had felt as if I had completely lost control of my children when I purchased this book. Within the week, I had the control back, along with happier, well behaved children. This book is a must read if you feel as if you have lost control.
While I like Dr. Dobsons advice in general, I did not find much useful advice in this book. It was nice to know that my child was perfectly normal, and that I could expect to be using a lot of extra energy on her for a while. But I wasnt able to find anything to help me. I did find a chart for another child though.
I think the worst part of this book is that he starts out with an example of how he handles his dog when he is strong willed. It was a bad omen. I would recommend "Raising Your Spirited Child" by Mary Sheedy Lurcinka instead. It's a much more respectful approach.
"'The Strong-Willed Child' is a practical 'how-to' book on discipline and child-rearing, which focuses on sibling rivalry, hyperactivity, self-esteem, and the most common errors made by frustrated parents."
Naomi E. reviewed The Strong-Willed Child: Birth Through Adolescence on
I must first admit I did not finish reading this book, but here's why: I have a very strong-willed 2 year old. While I know that most 2 year olds have some degree of strong will, my son is definitely strong willed, now at 2 and I'm sure he will be later on.
The book does not really give ANY good advice for young children who are strong-willed. It admits everything we know - that while we love them like crazy, our strong-willed children can also drive us crazy. Dr. Dobson admits that these children are very challenging to rear, and he says we must be absolutely consistent or they may get in a LOT of trouble later on in life, very likely even a lot of legal trouble. He tells us we must make sure to discipline these children, but...unfortunately that's all. In every instance in which he discusses toddlers, he gives a situation in which the child is just 'acting his age' and should not be disciplined. It's almost as if he thinks that toddlers are rarely, actually defiant. Well then I must say he has not met MY often defiant 2 year old. Dr. Dobson gives NO support whatsoever in loving but strong discipline of this kind of child. I was rather disappointed, to be honest, because I have heard so many good things about Dobson.
I did not like it at all. I found it old fashioned and I felt that his approach is not a productive one. I don't like to be told when to spank my child. If you are not fond of old fashion forms of discipline-check out any book on positive discipline.