ultimate confidence Author:wendi friesen Why don't you just shut up... — You'll never amount to anything... — Don't embarrass me again... — You are such a shy boy, you always have been... — Quit daydreaming... — Nobody wants to hear what you have to say... — When will you ever stop talking so much... — In the first years of life, these statements have a startling impact on our impressionable ... more »subconscious mind. The mind has no evidence to measure these statements against any other reality. They are accepted at face value. Then the subconscious mind looks for evidence to support these precious beliefs. And if you grew up in a less than functional environment, you have a ton of evidence thrust on you by teachers, parents, kids at school to reinforce that you are no good, not accepted, uninteresting.
As you read this, you may be remembering times when you were teased, punished, put down, or embarrassed. These memories have a powerful emotional anchor. These emotions are easily accessed during your adult life. When a stressful situation comes up you will probably find yourself feeling the inadequacy as an emotion, before you notice it as a cognitive thought.
Even though you want to feel confident and in control and know consciously that you are smart enough/good enough your emotional subconscious mind knows different. Your mind races back to the memories that hold the emotions of your deepest insecurities. Your beliefs are accessed. Your conscious and subconscious mind is in conflict. The subconscious mind wins. EVERY time. Emotions rule.
And that is the GOOD NEWS!
Why, you ask? Because you CAN change the emotion in the memory. Your subconscious just needs a new emotion to access. No amount of wishing and hoping will change it. No amount of education or book reading will change it. Confidence is not learned on a cognitive level. If it was, it would be easy for you to speak in front of a group of 500 people, or walk up to a woman having coffee and introduce yourself without breaking into a cold sweat.
Change your beliefs by changing the emotions. Hypnosis can do this.« less