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Subject: WOW- I feel so insulted!
Date Posted: 11/14/2007 9:50 PM ET
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Someone ordered an audiobook deal that I ran in the book bazzarr and sent me a PM. I PM'd them back and in the PS I put that I also had deals on my books, if she liked romance. She PM's me back and states that she has a great hubby so she doesnt need to read romance.

My jaw about hit the floor. I happen to have a WONDERFUL relationship with my husband. He's pretty damn well perfect, good looking, good cook, good daddy.... all around good man. Do people honestly think that only lonley old spinsters read romance?


Date Posted: 11/14/2007 10:03 PM ET
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Well, she just doesn't know what she's missing by not reading romances then!

Bet she's never read one.  Why judge a whole genre of books until you've at least tried them?  I don't enjoy horror novels but I'd never knock them because I simply haven't read any.  They don't appeal to me at all.

Date Posted: 11/14/2007 10:19 PM ET
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I think I would be insulted too.  I have a great DH. We have a great sex life and spend a lot of time together.  I just happen to like romances. Actually they probably contribute to our active life together.  They're very inspiring if you know what I mean. 

Date Posted: 11/14/2007 11:04 PM ET
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Mary, I agree with you 100%.   My husband even encourages me to buy/read more romance books of various types so he can reap the benefits!! 

Date Posted: 11/14/2007 11:37 PM ET
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Ugh!  It was a totally insulting comment, but poor, poor woman--she just doesn't know what she's missing!  And hey, more books for me ;)

Date Posted: 11/15/2007 12:27 AM ET
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Date Posted: 11/15/2007 1:17 AM ET
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hee hee..well at least you didn't get Ani's response she got about romance novels! so I guess we're all shallow women with no love life who need mindless reading..geez..

btw, my friend borrows my books, esp the erotica ones, and her hubby likes them..of course he wants her to skip the in-between part of the story adn get to the good stuff!

Date Posted: 11/15/2007 2:49 AM ET
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Wow, uncalled for and just plain rude!  I feel insulted on behalf of my husband.

Date Posted: 11/15/2007 7:34 AM ET
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She has no clue.  Its her loss really.  Romance books have made my sex life with my husband better.  And he's a great husband too.  Some people just have the strangest ideas!


Date Posted: 11/15/2007 11:17 AM ET
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Romances can be pretty cheesy.  I love them but I can't blame her for saying it.  And anyway, who cares; we all have different tastes in books.

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Date Posted: 11/16/2007 3:30 PM ET
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Dawn Said: Mary, I agree with you 100%.   My husband even encourages me to buy/read more romance books of various types so he can reap the benefits!! 

Sounds familiar!!! My DH and I have a wonderful relationship, and we've been married for almost 13 years. I read romance, simply because I enjoy them, not because my love life sucks!

Date Posted: 11/17/2007 10:28 AM ET
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I read about a study somewhere that showed that in couples were one person (I assume the woman, but it didn't really say) read romance novels, the couple had a 30-40% more active love life.  Those who knock romance just don't realize the potential benefits. 

Date Posted: 11/17/2007 10:47 AM ET
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I agree 100%; in fact my hubby wants me to slow down the reading a bit because I'm wearing him out.  ;-)

Date Posted: 11/17/2007 11:26 AM ET
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LOL Claudia!  My DH often brings home or pulls off the store shelves ones he thinks I'd like... and picks them off TBR too (he's even read a few!).... I went through a romance reading slump this summer and he was really bummed... hee hee

I'm guessing they (the they that think those that lack a good relationship read romance) consider them like self-help books...well in some cases they can be *wink, wink, nudge, nudge* 

Date Posted: 11/17/2007 1:45 PM ET
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What would that say about true crime readers and people who read murder mysteries then?

Date Posted: 11/17/2007 1:58 PM ET
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Ha! Yeah, I bet if you looked at her wish list, you could come up with some good zingers.

I envy you guys whose husband's buy you romances, I keep wishing my husband would come through with some rare Mary Balogh's for Christmas or something. He probably doesn't feel qualified. ;-)  But he does sometimes ask me to pick a really hot author to read, heh heh.

Date Posted: 11/17/2007 9:29 PM ET
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I told my DH about that and all he could do is go WHAT?

He worries when I switch from reading romances to a different genre. He thinks that the book I read before ticked me off.

Date Posted: 11/18/2007 12:19 AM ET
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I have a friend who says the same thing -- that she doesn't need romance stories 'cos she's got such a great one of her own going with her hubby.  But when she says it she's trying to be cutsey-poo and not insulting.  Maybe this woman was just trying to say "thanks but just not my favorite genre" in a cutsey way too, and it came off wrong?

That was just my first thought is all.  :)

Date Posted: 11/19/2007 1:16 PM ET
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I no longer have a husband...... so I dont need to read murder mystery's. <wink>

Date Posted: 11/19/2007 2:02 PM ET
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*snort!*  Thanks for that, Judye!  ;)

Date Posted: 11/20/2007 8:14 AM ET
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good one  judye