Way way way too religious for my tastes. Good ideas, but I really didn't need a Biblical quote every other paragraph. I just couldn't get past it and did not finish reading. I did not plan on a sermon when I got this book.
Tina G. (santatina) reviewed Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life on
Helpful Score: 3
I was fascinated by the accuracy of the description of the problems I encounter when saying "NO' to things I didn't really want to say yes to. I was even more eager to finish the book, because I thought I had finally found the solution and insight on how to "cure" or fix my inability to say No at times. Needless to say I was very disapointed. This book is great in determining the problem, but in my view, it lacks the "solution" to the problem. It is often referred to as "find a support group", "talk to your support group"... I had much preferred the author was as "explicit" in the answer to the problem, as he was in the description of it. Three stars!
Leah S. reviewed Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life on
Helpful Score: 2
I'm really enjoying this book. It's a great introduction to boundaries, how to set them, and how to respect others boundaries. I would recommend this book to anyone who thinks they might have boundary problems, or are codependent, etc. It doesn't go too in depth because it tries to give you advice in all areas of your life. But there are other books by the same authors to help you build boundaries in specific parts of life. This book has definitely been helpful for me.
How easy it is to continually find ourselves being abused, taken advantage of, and not respected. For lack of teaching so many of us know little about how to set boundaries around our lives and still be loving to those with whom we interact. Rather than chase them away, it actually creates more respect from them for us.
This book goes a long way towards letting us gain a level of control over our lives, time, schedules and resources. Those to whom I have recommended it and have read it, come back excited about the freedom that are starting to enjoy.
This is one book that is a must-have for all of our libraries.
Dianne P. (freebird1985) reviewed Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life on
This was a fabulous book that helped me begin my journey to healthy boundaries! It explained what healthy boundaries are, how to build them into your life, and how to maintain them for your best mental (and physical) health.
Angie N. reviewed Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life on
This is the kind of book you need to read multiple times - not because it's hard to follow, but quite the contrary. It makes so much sense and provides awesome techniques in terms of boundaries that rereading it will help instill the practice of boundaries even further. It discusses the different ways people try to manipulate you and overstep your boundaries in multiple arenas (i.e. family, relationships, work environment, etc.) and also ways to handle these situations.
It is a must read for everyone who has experienced issues in their relationships... so basically everyone would benefit from this well written, practical book!
Workbook posted. Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.
I thought this book started out very slow, spending way too long explaining what a boundary is or what a lack of boundaries is. Also, this book is written from a Christian point of view with many bible verses interspersed, which I felt got in the way. However, the book got much better after the beginning. I enjoyed the parts about child psychology such as how a little baby doesn't realize it is seperate from its mother. As the baby grows and starts to realize this, it starts to define itself as seperate from mommy (hence the "no" phase, which is the only way baby can be its own individual). The different chapters on boundaries with parents, children, friends, work, etc. were very good.