This is the final book in the triology (A Child Called It (aged 4 to 12) and The Lost Boy (aged 12 to 18)) and this book is centered on his life from age 18 onward. I have to say that this is my favourite of the three. The other two were good as well ... they were just kinda difficult to read.
This book FINALLY answers some of your questions (and his as well) if you can believe what The Mother says to him (which he even admits he's not sure if she was honest or playing one of her "games" again). There are some more hellacious horrors revealed in this book and it just makes it all the more difficult to believe that there really ARE people like this cruel, hateful and vindictive MOTHER out there in the world!!
You get to see his "reunion" with his father, confrontations with his mother, his marriage and his wonderful awesome love for his son ...
Although I wasn't physically abused by my mother growing up, I was emotionally and mentally abused by her and I really REALLY related to this part of his life. Trying to figure out why he can't trust people and why he pusehes those he does love away and why he never feels like he is worth the love he is offered. I honestly learned some things about myself in this book and it was nice to see a happy ending in this wonderful person's life. It's amazing his amount of forgiveness ... I am not sure I could do it ... but I'm learning ... and trying ... with the help of his words from this book!
I read "A Child Called It" and "The Lost Boy"... so I felt the need to find out how things turned out. As strange as it sounds, this book allowed me to find closure from the first two books... although a lot of the story was redundant and recalled from the first two books. I understand that he wrote it so that the story could stand alone, but at times it felt a little "chaotic".
Note: While reading this book, I went to the store and found another Pelzer book (A Teenagers Story of Longing for acceptance and friendship).... The "series" wasn't written in sequence and I thought I was following it correctly... but in essence, I found out that this book is not really part 3... I guess it's part 4.
This is the conclusion to the story of Dave Pelzer who was horribly abused by his mother as a child. The previous books were, A Child Called "IT" and The Lost Boy. A truly moving story that leaves you wanting to cheer for Dave for telling his story.
This is an inspiring story about a man who was so abused as a boy that his mother called him, "It." The tale begins with his last few abuses and his removal from his mother. He grows up in a foster home with all the emotional and physical scars from his childhood. He finds a place in the Air Force where he works hard to reach his goals in spite of his childhood baggage. He marries, his marriage breaks up, tries to become a speaker and author to inspire others who live in abusive situations all the while experiencing setback after setback. But Dave never gives up. He just works harder. It's an inspiring read that makes one want to cry at times. Good one!
The final book of the trilogy of Dave Pelzer's life story is a fast read - and interesting. Having grown up in a pretty average and happy home, it's always intriguing to see life from a different perspective. Ultimately, Dave's accomplishments are inspiring and no doubt have made a difference for many.
I read all the books in his series in ONE day, what a horrific story of child abuse and a man who survived. After reading the final book I even wrote him a letter and he responded. Not for the faint of heart.
This book seemed to repeat many of the stories in the past two books of the series. I could not finish this book, and offered it to a colleague of mine who had read the 1st 2 books and she, too, could not finish the book. It was very repetitious. Initially i was really interested to see what became of Dave's life, but unfortunately, I never read that far in the book.
This is part three of the trilogy that Dave Pelzer wrote. "The Lost Boy" (I also have on here) is part two of same series. A must read for anyone wanting to open their eyes to how life can be for those abused as children.
This was a great book. It was a great conclusion to the series. To know there are actually children who went through circumstances like that are sickening. To know that they not only survive, but in some ways thrive is encouraging. It shows what the human spirit is made of.
Great book.... I made the mistake of reading the 3rd book in the series first....
What a dumb move that was......Everyone out there make sure you read the other 2 books first...makes it more enjoyable.
After reading this last book in the series of David Peltzer's life, concluding his previos books, 'A Child Called "IT"' and 'The Lost Boy' I am throughly happy at how much this brave man has accomplished and learned. It lets you know that even if you feel like your life has been somehow corrupted, that there is hope for you to only better yourself by your experiences.
The third tale in David Pelzer's autobiographical trilogy, A Man Named Dave is an inspiring story of terror, recovery, and hope experienced by the author throughout his life. Known for his work as a child abuse advocate, Pelzer has been commended by several U.S. presidents and international agencies, and his previous memoirs of growing up as an abused child (A Child Called "It" and The Lost Boy) have touched thousands of lives. He provides living proof that we can "stop the cycle" and lead fulfilling, rewarding lives full of healthy relationships. Ultimately triumphant, this book will have you living through the eyes of a terrified child, a struggling young man, and an adult finally forgiving his dying father--reading with tissues nearby is recommended. Ending with a touching conversation between the author and his own son, you'll finish reading this with a warm heart and an enriched understanding of the need for compassion in all parts of life. --Jill Lightner
How much of Dave Pelzer's past haunts him into adulthood? Can he live a normal life? Will he ever marry and have children of his own? From the cover: The inspiring conclusion to "A Child Called 'It'" and "The Lost Boy".
Everyone should read the end of the story that talks about how David dealt with the issues of his child abuse, the sadness of the death of his father, the outcome of confronting his mother, his determination to get into the air force, and the ups and downs of his relationship with his wife. This may not be the end of Dave's story but it's a nice wrap up of many of the questions I had.
From the back cover:
#all those years you tried your best to break me, and I'm still here. One day you'll see, I'm going to make something of myself." These words were Dave Pelzer's declaration of independence to his mother, and they represented the ultimate act of self-reliance. Dave's father never interevene as his mother abused him with shocking brutality. The more than two million readers of Pelzer's previous international bestseller, A Child Called "It" and The lost Boy, know that he lived to tell his courageous story. But even after he was rescued, his life remained haunted by memories of his years as the bruised, coering "It" locked in his mother's basement. Desperately trying to make something of his life, Dave was determined to weather every setback and gain strength from adversity.
With stunning fenerosity of spriit, Dave Pelzer invites readers on his journey to discover how a lost, nameless boy finally found himself in the heart and soul of a man who is free at last.
My notes: To truly understand this memoir, I suggest that you read a Child Called "It" and possibly The Lost Boy before you read this. It will give you tremendous insight into the horror this man lived as a child and how and why he thought and behaved when he was finally out of the clutches of his extremely sick mother and overly passive father.
All those years you tried your best to break me, and I am still here. One day you'll see, I'm going to make something of myself. These words were Dave Pelzer's declaration of indepedence to his mother, and they represented the ultimate act of self=reliance. Dave's father never intervened as his mother abused him with shocking brutality. The more than two million readers of Pelzer's previous international bestsellars, A Child Called "It" and The Lost Boy, know that he lived to tell his courageous story. But even after he was rescued, his life remained haunted by memories of his years as the bruised, cowering "It" locked in his mother's basement.
Desperately trying to make something of his life, Dave was determined to weather every setback and gain strength from adversity.